girls' night

Two weekends ago I was invited to a girls' night. Cocktails and Conversation. Pretty cute right? Everyone who went was from work. I really like the host but was not super excited about spending a whole night talking with girls (that has never been something I get excited for. Really, school retreats with a cabin full of girls: cue anxiety attack.) Remember a long time ago when I wrote about doing things we don't want to? And the post about making friends? It was like all of these posts were coming together in real life.

I won't elaborate on those things again. You've probably got the picture I'm not very good at these things.

I am 100% behind the idea of a girl's night. What better way to do it when your husband drives you (time together) and in a house (nice and safe!). I would recommend it to anyone who is struggling to get to know people in their area. Conversation can be easily formed by environment. For example: I saw the clock on your wall is from Alaska. Did you live there? Now all you have to do is listen! Or, go for something you know you have in common. For me everyone had a drink in their hand, so I asked if anyone like breweries. Bingo! I got one girl to talk for a few minutes about breweries. All I had to do is pretend I knew what she was talking about!

Of course there is a huge temptation at girls' night. Gossip. Anytime more than one person is in the room the temptation to gossip is SO high. The temptation is even higher when all the people's are women and work together. I had to walk a thin line between having conversation and gossiping. Anytime I am with people from work I want them to think I am different. It's amazing how much we can be a witness to the people we work with. 

I am so glad I went to this girls' night. I really did enjoy the conversation and the cocktail (wine... yum). I even stayed Paleo through the whole thing! I wonder if I could host something like this. Have you hosted a girls' night. If so let me know your tips! 

stress

Before signing with my current work position I knew I would have to take an online class. They require all workers to take Early Childhood Education courses. I actually respect the work place for doing so. If I was a parent I would want my child to be in the best care and with a person who has knowledge behind what they are doing.

Respect aside, taking an online class has been a struggle for me. I am in my fourth week and am finding myself having a bad attitude towards it. My poor husband has to hear my complaints almost every time I sit down to do homework. Really, Victoria? Complaining every time? Yea, pathetic right? But for some reason I am slow to switch my negative attitude to a willing heart. I know the class will be beneficial to me later in life. Especially, if I want to become a mother. This week I realized a lot of why I don't want to take the class is because the stress is puts me under.

traditional wife in a modern world

Hey there! Have you noticed the new look? I'm excited to announce that I have been re-inspired for this blog. From here on out you'll be getting a look into my dutch story while being a traditional wife in a modern world. I want to bring you better content and more frequent posts. Exciting right?!

You see, I've grown up in a very traditional lifestyle. Now here I am 22, married, and still holding onto those traditional values but placed in a modern society. My values, thoughts, and ways of doing things don't often line up to societies. I hope to give you more focused content through my lessons in the kitchen, in the house, in a relationship, in my workplace, and in my heart. Please don't think I've gotten everything 100% correct; I'm learning as I'm writing!

P.S. I'm still fidgeting with the site, so please ignore anything that doesn't look great or work correctly!